Below is a few snippets from Amélie Lamont’s Guide to Allyship. If you would like more information, please visit her page. Used here with permission.
To be an ally is to:
A number of different accounts of student nurses talking about their problems with racism whilst working on placement at NHS Hospitals.
Being an ally is hard work
Many would-be allies fear making mistakes that could have them labeled as “-ist” or “-ic” (racist, sexist, transphobic, homophobic, etc). But as an ally, you’re also affected by a system of oppression. This means that as an ally, there is much to unlearn and learn—mistakes are expected. You need to own this as fact and should be willing to embrace the daily work of doing better.
As an ally, you need to own your mistakes and be proactive in your education, every day.
|Own your comments and actions
|Make assumptions about people
|Understand we can all make mistakes
|Make a sincere apology
|Blame the individual because they are upset
|Get to know people before you start using one-liners
|Get angry and defensive
|Treat people as you would want to be treated, if you were them
|Look for support from others in a group setting
|Learn from mistakes
|Ignore the fact that you may have caused offence
|If you’re not sure what to say…ask
|Laugh off mistakes like nothing has happened